For women over 40. Why time awareness is so important


Pam Drzewiecki


As a 55-year-old woman, I find a new awareness of time and how I am spending it.

Time brings changes even if you are living on a hamster wheel of doing the same thing over and over again. That awareness hits you that there has to be more. Not that you possibly don’t love your life, but because something burning inside says you deserve more. 

I have been a life coach, strategic thinking partner, and business owner for 5 years now. It takes a lot of work but when you are spending time working on your passion and purpose it is amazing. Switching careers at age 50 from a place I thought I would retire from was scary. It’s really scary. But the awareness of time crept in to put that thought in my mind that there has to be more out there for me. 

Recently it has been a time in my life where I have learned to express what I need in order to live this amazing best life. It is not easy to ask but when you do, wow! 

When you think about your time, do you think about how you will use it and plan it? Do you think about the intentional ways you can spend it? 

When I spoke with a client the other day, she said she was thinking about how many more visits she has realistically scheduled in her life to see her daughter – if she lived to a certain age. This opened my thoughts about how important awareness of our time is and what we are doing with it.

How do you look at the time? 

Recently an email came in from one of my followers and it said, “Blessings to you on the end of school and beginning of summer!  May your heart be pure and your patience large…  lol”

I laughed, what a great reminder! 

May my heart be pure and my patience be large. 

This doesn’t always come easily, especially when you find yourself being the anchor for so many and time can become a constraint because of a lack of vision, focus, and planning.

When we were growing up we were told that we could do anything. Remember that commercial, “I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man”?  It set the stage saying women can do it all. Even if you weren’t out of the house working and you were a stay-at-home wife and mom, your life was based on putting everything and everyone else first. There probably wasn’t any time left for you. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I am sure you are happy and were back then as well but there is nothing wrong with finding a special space for you. Identifying your time awareness.

Now fast forward from 30-40 years ago and adjusting the thinking pattern – listening to “put the oxygen mask on yourself first” doesn’t sound feasible. I am here to share with you a way without feeling selfish! 

Here are three tips to start you on the journey of time awareness with no guilt. 

Before reading them, think back to my client who thought about the number of visits she had left. Think about how we were taught we should be something to everyone first. Think about what it would look like when you start using these three tips. 

So here you go. The first step for you is reading the tips. 

  1. Pause and Breath. Be aware of what that feels like. Try it out for a few minutes a day to really feel the sensation of calmness. Start small. Small steps can lead to big progress! In this exercise ground yourself with your faith and practice of bringing calmness into your life.
  1. Make others aware of what you need and what you are looking for. It is not always easy to put yourself first and to express it, but with the help of people you love (and maybe ones you don’t -lol), you will start seeing the difference.
  1. Jot down things that YOU love to do! If you don’t know where to start – begin thinking about what you loved as a kid or young adult and go from there. Things you lost track of. Things that time pushed you past. 

Be the change. Sometimes just stepping out differently than you and everyone around you is used to seeing you do, can change everything. Remember a small shift can create big results. 

What are you going to start today? 

Hi! I am Pam, a life coach that helps women thrive by understanding what they need daily to create peace and joy in their life, business, and career. 💕 Founder of the Powerful Purpose Pillars

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